1 December 05

When a female meet a man (usually occurs in the asian's culture), the man would ask the female how many bf/partners you have before. With a number she provides, it would be easily assume how many man she slept with. However this number can provide 2 scenario:

1. a high number, means she is a easy goer and got f*** by many men.
2. a low number, ohhh she is a good good girl.

however, with both scenario there could also be a wrong assumption.
Scenario 1: Yeah, she have 8 boyfriends/partners before but doesn't mean she is a bicycle that can easily be ride on. It could be just she is a emotionally weak person and easily believe she is in love with the guy and easily get attracted to the wrong guy that at end abuse her verbally or even physically, or even possesive guy or even a guy that lives on her or a guy who is complete a loser. However, it is too possible she is a high sexual driven girl and enjoys sexual encoutners with different males.

Scenario 2: A girl with lets say 2 boyfriends in life. Those are the ones she consider official, the ones she lets her friends know about and even her family. What about the hidden ones? What about the ones that she pick up at clubs and pubs and have one night stand? or even the ones that she flings on and have casual sex with? Does that make her any better than scenario 1?

IN this society, specially the Asian group and society, they always think that girls lose out. And guys find it as a trouphy as how many women that they slept with. It works in the caucasian society but they are more open about it and respect the other party. Of course, this is a generalising situation. THere are good and bad (asian and caucasian) men. Those with a gentleman personality and those with a horrible character.

In other hands, when a guy tells a girl his numbers, it too comes out with 2 scenario:

Scenario 1: High number- he is smooth and definitely got his mini manual/guidelines to pursee so many woman and to increase his numbers. And who knows? with those amount of experience, he may be "good" in bed. But yet, could there be another story? That he is a selfish man. He only gets what he wants but doesn't know how to please the other party. Or even the most simple backfire, he is just boosting the number to make him look "cool"

Scenario 2: Low Number - he is a good good boy. Unexpeirience. Once again, how would someone know for real is he really the sheep? or a wolf in a sheep skin disguise?

In life we fall in love, we learn and we move on. There are many wrong sexual relationships you encounters sometimes and there are some that are really worth it and you will never regret you have that special night/nights with that person. Whether it is in a proper relationships or the nowadays popularity , sex/fuck buddies. As long as you have no regrets, it is worth it. And if u done some that you regret and feel that you are stupid to have done so with that guy/girl, learn from it and move on. If she/he would want to spread and boast as a throphy, then it is lack of civilasation and manners. Yes, it would hurt you no matter what, but move on. Thats all it matters. Somethings are meant to haunt you forever but then it is too to remind you that you learnt another lesson and should learn to dealt with it in a more mature manner and of course a more agreeable manner and not dilusion urself.

All the best to all the guys and girls out there that encounters this problems. Hope you too would not judge someone by how many person he/she slept with. Sometimes one doesn't want to know the numbers, because he/she is afraid to judge or it too can be he/she may just be a person who love/like you for who you are and is just attractive to you as the simplicity of who you are. This I learnt! If he/she wants to share, she/he would openly tell you. However, still have safe precaution. Getting sexual illness or unwanted pregnancy is a mistake you made with yoruself knowing. Then and so, you got no one to blame for not being careful and being not selfish.

Man and Woman around the world- Fall in Love, Learn From It and Move ON. There is always someone for someone. Never give up and never feel you are not good enough for someone. Overweight or Underweight. 50's or 20's. There is always "chemistry" out there!